The Ego / Personality
"Discover the Person behind the Personality"
The Ego is defined here as the image we have created out of the thoughts of what we should be.
The Ego can be said to be The Self that is the personality.
This article will talk about the Ego and how to penetrate it to discover the deeper Self.
Ego/Personality In Depth
"The personality belongs to the Self, but the Self does not belong to the personality."
We are The Self.
And like an apple which can be peeled into various layers of itself, the Personality is the outer layer of The Self.
Our Personality is created by our outer thoughts of who we are. And thus this part of ourself is ever-changing with each passing of time and experience.
Importance Of Addressing The Attachment Towards The Personality
Realize that there is nothing wrong with the Personality. The Personality is useful in that it allows The Self to experience a particular role.
However, if we become attached to the Personality then this can create Suffering Experiences - Particularly in times when our image gets hurt.
When we become attached to the personality we will fail to see beyond the outer skin of The Self. This can greatly impede the Knowing of The Self.
Path Of Creator
Ego/Personality In Relation To The Path Of Creator
To create greater happiness in life we have to first become aware that when we become attached to our Personality it can create a great deal of Suffering.
For instance, when we become attached to the Ideas of being Powerful, we can suffer when we become weak, when we become attached to the ideas of being extraordinary, we can suffer in times when we are ordinary.
Realize that attachment to anything is a sign that there is a lack of Acceptance of The Self as is. The Self.
The Path begins with the awareness that attachment to The Self creates only Suffering and creates great impediments to the Knowing of The Self.
It is only by releasing our attachments to the Ego/Personality that we can develop the Deeper Knowing of The Self – to see the Person behind the Personality.
But how do we do this?
The Path indeed will be a difficult and confusing Path. Because in the beginning it will be difficult to discern just what part of ourselves is the Personality / Ego and what part of ourselves is the Deeper Self – the Soul, The Spirit.
And to make it even more confusing, each time we ask ourselves the question “Is this the part of myself that I need to address and let go?” that part of ourselves will answer “No, I am essential to you and I am part of yourself.” When this happens no work will be done. Thus questioning ourselves this way will not be very effective.
The Path will become clearer when one simply re-focus their attention on working on their Sufferings. Because instead of questioning ourselves which part of ourselves to address, we simply work on the Cause of our attachment towards our Personality – and the cause will always come back to our Sufferings.
For instance, our fears of being humiliated in front of people will make us become attached to the Idea of appearing strong and impenetrable all the time.
For instance, our impatience will always make us attached to the Idea of never getting in a situation where it wastes our time.
For instance, our Negativity towards boringness will make us attached to the Ideas of always being interesting and never boring other people and so forth.
Thus by simply working on our Sufferings, the attachment to the Ego / Personality will naturally disappear and be resolved.
At The Idea Level
As The Seed Cause to all forms of Sufferings begin with Negative Ideas, let us look at the cause of the attachment towards the Ego / Personality from the perspective of Negative Ideas.
The Negative Ideas which can drive one to become attached to their personality are generally Ideas that begin with –
“I Should Be...”
- “I should be popular”
- “I should have heaps of money”
- “I Should not be Selfish”
- “I should not be taken advantage of”
- “I should not be controlled”
- “I should not waste my time”
A Catalyst that can be used here is to simply realize that these Self-Declarations are actually registered in the Deeper Mind as –
- “I will not accept myself if I’m not popular”
- “I will not accept myself if I don’t have heaps of money”
- “I will not accept myself if I am Selfish”
- “I will not accept The Self if I am taken advantage of”
- “I will not accept The Self if I am being controlled”
- “I will not accept The Self if my time is wasted”
The following are some articles that can help one on their journey of releasinge their attachment towards the Ego / Personality
Ever-Refining The Self
There is no need to become attached to our Personality but many of us do and this can create a great deal of Suffering. It is by Knowing the Truth that the personality is impermanent that one can slowly release their attachment to their personality. And this will require one to accumulate experiences in life which teach us that our beliefs are ever in a process of change and ever-refinement. If we look back in the past we will always realize how silly we were in our thinking before even though at the time we so believed that we were right. The wisdom learnt from such experiences is to always question the beliefs that we have become attached to as of this very moment because perhaps in the future we will realize just how silly we were again and again.
The Masks In Life
Our Personality can be poetically described as the Masks we wear in life. And in life we wear many masks in order to conform and survive.
These Masks are the Ideas of “What we should be.”
When we become attached to the ideas of "what we should be," For instance, how we should be as a friend, as a person in society, as a husband or wife, as an employee, as a "good person" as an "inspiring person" as an "extraordinary person" as a "normal person" and so forth we can lose ourselves behind the masks we wear.
The masks can be said to be the makeup of our ego/personality which is created out of the fear of being judged by ourselves and others because we cannot accept The Self as is.
When one is attached to one's ego/personality one will be in a state of suffering. We can also can get into a defensive state of constantly avoid people who may peel off our masks to reveal the Deeper Self – The Self that is in fear (The “Ugly Self that we do not want people to see”
The Nature Of The Personality / Ego
To understand what the Ego / Personality, we have to first become aware that this Personality although seems permanent is in fact not permanent. The nature of the Personality is very much the same as a Habit -
It appears permanent, but it is ever changing,
Although the Personality can be changed and released, to do so is pretty difficult. Because like a habit, our personality is created by years and lifetimes of constant thoughts about how “We should be” thus to release our attachment to these Ideas with a click of a finger will be quite unrealistic.
But it is possible to change our personality. it just takes a great deal of courage / trust, persistence /patience and love / letting go and so forth.
All Paths towards Greater Happiness will always involve Self-Acceptance.
Personality As CatalystShould I defend my Ego?
Up until now it is easy to come to the belief that the Personality / Ego is a Bad thing to have. The higher wisdom here is to understand that it is neither good nor bad. The Truth simply is that when we become attached to it then we can experience great Suffering.
In a situation such as when someone takes advantage of us or make us angry - should we defend our Ego?
To answer this question we first realize that whatever we do on the outside will always boil down the choices we make.
The key to Catalysing the release of our Ego is in addressing our State. I.e. to observe the negativities we experience within when our Ego is being put at stake, when someone angers it, when someone threatens the validity of its existence. After realizing this then we can use various ways to Catalyze the experience i.e. to develop the deeper Knowing of why we are Suffering and of the Deeper Fears involved in the experience.
That is why the Ego can be used as a great catalyst for one to discover their deeper Sufferings. Because through life we will take on many different masks, and each mask will allow us to experience a different version of The Self which will bring out different forms of Sufferings: Fears, Negativities in the depths of the consciousness.
The goal is not to become attached to these masks, but to allow them to come on and off. And this will come naturally as we work on addressing our Sufferings, because our Sufferings will continue to drive us to put on the masks. Thus when the Sufferings are released, the masks will be released and all will be Known.
The destination is to reach an understanding that there is no good or bad about the ego/personality. The importance is in what we do with it. Much like money which can be used for good or used to bad, we can use our personalities/ego to clash with one another each other or to inspire and motivate each other. It is only once we have released our attachment from our personality that we can begin to explore The Self in its Entirety.
Develop Experienced Knowledge
Instead of thinking about who you are, simply observe who you are.
The Creator's MeditationLink here
Simply observe the Physical Sensations we experience throughout the Body Journey instead of thinking “How we should experience it.” Doint this will help one to develop the foundation to simply Accept the Truth rather than Imagining the Truth. This will help us to go beyond the realm of thinking and develop the Knowing of The Self as is.
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