"People will criticize you as much as you criticize yourself and others"
Judgement means the act of finding fault in The Self – i.e. to find and declare “Imperfection” in The Self.
Judgement can be directed both ways – inwards and outwards.
We all judge and we all have a fear of being judged.
Whether it is from how we perform in our jobs, how well we do in our roles as a friend or a husband or wife, or how well we are in life, deep down we all have some sort of fear of being judged for "Who we are," deep down, we are all judging ourselves and others as well.
This article is about addressing the suffering states of mind concerning judgement and how one can release oneself from the suffering state.
Judgement In Depth
Judgement is often seen as an action – i.e. someone pointing their finger and criticizing at how ugly the pot plant is.
Judgement is neither good nor bad when it is not driven by the suffering state of the mind. In fact it is quite natural to develop preferences towards certain things i.e. I like this more than the other. This is because everyone will all think differently about one thing and will always have different taste and preferences towards different things in life. Thus it is natural for one to judge, i.e. to say that an apple tastes better than a lemon or vice versa.
Judgement however is destructive to the Mind when there is negativity behind it.
I.e. when one internally hates the lemon for being bitter. When one likes something out of hate for the other.
And every time we judge with a negative state of Mind we are Suffering Within.
Thus this article is focusing on the Suffering States of Mind that drives one to judge in a negative way.
Importance Of Addressing Issues Of Judgement
It is important to address the suffering states of judgement because it can limit our experience of happiness.
Judgement can also cause one to criticise and reject certain personalities, certain appearances, habits, cultures and so forth.
When one rejects The Self – whether that judgement is directed outwards to Other Selves or inwards to Oneself it will all bring a great deal of suffering, unhappiness, depression and especially limitations in life.
When one is constantly judging, it will be hard for one to truly realize any beauty that is right in front of them.
Judgement can also cloud our Judgement. It is only when Judgement is released that we can see all things with clarity i.e. for what it is. For instance, when we judge a person based on their appearance we are not Knowing the person from experience – we are just believing the illusionary truth in which our imagination has led us to believe. It is by taking the step forward to get to Know them that we can develop the Knowing of that person for who they really are. Perhaps they may be not as bad as we had imagined.
Path Of Creator
Judgement In Relation To The Path Of Creator
The Path Of Creator is about developing greater happiness in our lives. We can never be happy as long as we experience negativity in the mind.
As The Seed Cause for all forms of Sufferings will all recede back to Negative Ideas, let us look at the relationship between Negative Ideas and Judgement.
At The Idea Level
Judgement is the manifestation of a Negative Idea that we have become attached to in the consciousness.
“It is not ok to be fat”
“It is not ok to be loud”
“it is not ok to be arrogant”
Thus when we discover these traits in Other Selves we will judge them with a Negative State of Mind.
And conversely, we will judge ourselves in the same way when we find ourselves with the negative traits as well. Realize that the Deeper Mind only registers One Self. See Catalyst – Self.
To Transform and release oneself out of the Negative Idea thus will require one to first understand this very nature of the Deeper Mind – that when we reject others, we are in fact rejecting ourselves and that when we reject ourselves we are actually rejecting others.
Thus judgement towards Other Selves will be sustained if one continues to judge oneself even though one has tried their best to not judge others and vice versa.
Thus to truly transform and release Judgement, one has to develop compassion/Self-Acceptance not just in one direction but also both ways.
It will thus be a spiritual journey full of lessons concerning Acceptance.
And to discover the spiritual lessons one can catalyze the Knowing by developing a Stillness of Mind so that one can simply observe the Deeper Mind when one experiences a Negative State of Judgement rather than simply reacting to it – because when we allow the negative reactions of judgement to overcome us we will fall into the illusion that it is necessary to continue reacting rather than seeing the need to address it. It is only when we can observe the Mind with Stillness when this happens that we will realize that the negativity is only temporary – a state of suffering that we have created for ourselves which needs to be addressed.
What one will realize on this journey is that as one releases more and more judgement of oneself one will be able to accept others more and more for who they are and vice versa.
Within time one will become more and more aware that other people are not really “ugly/bad” but rather they are “ugly/bad” because of our negative perception of who they are. Thus the more one works on judgement, the more one will begin to see the beauty in others not only on the inside but also on the outside. People who used to look unattractive will gradually become more attractive on the outside and on the inside.
The destination is towards a Mind which is All-Accepting, a mind which is full of Peace and Stillness. This does not mean that The Self will no longer have preferences for what they like and dislike, but rather to allow their preferences to come from a point of Wisdom and Love rather than Fear and Negativity.
Catalysts for stilling the mind from Judgement
When we find ourselves having a Negative Experience from judging others i.e. from being frustrated at their flaws, from cringing at their stupidity and so forth, simply realize that if we look hard enough we can always find things we do not like about someone. And likewise, realize that if we look hard enough we can always find things we like as well. The question here is then “Why are we always allowing our judgement to take us to see the Negative Side of others?”
Develop Experienced Knowledge
Every time you find yourself judging something i.e. liking or disliking something, observe the Inner World and ask yourself the question,
“Am I experiencing any Negativities?”
This will help one to develop the Knowing of whether or not one is making their choices and judgements out of a Negative State Of Mind
The Creator's MeditationLink here
The Practice Of Meditation is an opportunity for one to simply observe oneself for a duration of time. And during the period in which one periods the themes of Self-Judgement will often come up – i.e. it may come from one’s criticism against oneself when one wanders off in the mind rather than being present, it may come from one’s judgement towards oneself when one fails to go through the whole practice by stopping the practice half-way.
To Transform and Release Judgement in the meditation, one can simply observe everything which happens as is without reacting and dwelling in the Negative States of the Mind. This is how we develop compassion at the deeper level of the mind and this will naturally allow us to release any issues to do with judgement.
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