"When we try to escape facing our Pains and Sufferings we are turning away from the Truth"
Denial is defined here as the refusal to see the Truth.
For instance we can be in a denial towards the parts of ourselves which we refuse to see. These are usually our flaws – parts of ourselves which we cannot Accept. We can do this at the conscious level or at the subconcious level.
Denial In Depth
The reasons for one to deny parts of oneself are plenty but let us look at the two primary reasons as to why people would deny parts of themselves.
When we look at ourselves in the mirror we can always find parts of ourselves which we cannot Accept. We often address this at the physical level in various ways i.e. if we find ourselves fat we can buy a shirt which will make us look skinny, or to buy a dress that can bring out one’s curve a bit more or to apply makeup to hide all the flaws. When we try to cover our flaws in Rejection of the part of ourselves that we cannot Accept we are actually more or less in Self-Denial.
And we often can do the same when we find things about the Mental or Emotional Self that we don't like i.e. our negativities i.e. our anger and impatience. When we reject parts of ourselves we can develop a habit of convincin ourselves that these thoughts and emotions are not even there.
Lack of Self-Awareness.
It can be hard for ourselves to see the negativities and imbalances within when we have lived with them for a long time. I.e. the state of Anger would seem to be a normal state for a person who has lived with it for most of his life so as a result that person may not see it as an issue that needs to be addressed – perhaps because he/she has come to the belief that it is natural to have anger.
Importance Of Addressing Self-Denial
It is important to address any issues to do with Self-Denial because it is by Accepting all of ourselves – even parts in which we cannot Accept – that we can address it and move on from it.
We can never improve, refine, address any parts of ourselves which we refuse to see and accept. Thus the anger will stay there for as long as we deny it is there. The impatience will be with us for as long as we deny its existence. The Sufferings will continue for as long as we do not Accept that it is there.
Path Of Creator
Denial In Relation To The Path Of Creator
When we are in Self-Denial we will never be able to go forward in Transforming and Releasing our Sufferings because we can never address anything that we can't see or are not aware of.
Thus the Path will begin first with developing The Knowing of The Self – in particular Self-Awareness.
We can start by developing our sensitivities to the world within, to our emotions and thoughts in every moment so we can be clearly aware of any negativities that may crop up.
The more we become sensitive to them, the more Negativities we will be able to pick up and address. Without a high sensitivity towards our Inner Worlds we can easily oversee the subtle negativities that may arise throughout the day.
Without developing higher sensitivities we can come to the belief that only “Big” Sufferings need to be addressed rather than the “Small/Subtle Ones” Realize that both are equally important. A small experience of Anger or a big experience of Anger - both are equally important to be addressed.
The Catalyst Honesty can also help one greatly on this journey of re-discovery. This is because in fear of what other people think we can suppress, deny how we really feel and think. By the attempt of trying to be honest all the time it will help us to reconnect ourselves with our true emotions, thoughts, desires.
The Destination is towards the Acceptance of The Self – even all parts of The Self that we cannot Accept.
Develop Experienced Knowledge
Simply try to be Self-Aware in all moments and observe the Mind and Physical Body for any Negativities/Negative Physical Sensations that may surface throughout the day.
As you do this, try your best not to react Negatively to it but simply Accept that it is there (rather than Rejecting it) and then overcome it by trying your best to simply observe it by coming into a State of Stillness..
One way to tell whether or not you are in Self-Denial is by seeing how much you can stay with the Negativities as they surface i.e. are you running away into your Mind? How much are you Negatively Reacting to it? How much are you holding yourself back from experiencing the Negative Physical Sensations in its full extent and so forth.
The Creator's MeditationLink here
The Creator’s Meditation will help The Self to address any issues to do with Self-Denial. Because the Practice allows one to practice the simple observation of reality without distortions. Thus as one meditates one will experience the full intensity of one's suffering states whenever it comes and goes.
Realize that we are not in Self-Denial when we try to be Still as these Negative Sensations surface in our body. Because it is by observing these Negative Sensations without Reacting / Distorting them with a Still Mind that we can experience the raw / undistorted physical sensations as they are - i.e. not trying to exaggerate or diminish or become attached to them.
If one does not Accept The Sufferings as they come up and continue to Negatively React to it by Rejecting to the experience, i.e. by declaring in the mind “This is not a good feeling! This is not me! I don’t want this!” then one will never be able to overcome it because it is through such negative declarations that have sustained the Negative Ideas.
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